Having a partner with similar interests is important in creating a solid foundation for marriage. While differences make a relationship exciting, there needs to be some common ground and agreement on basic fundamentals. Cannabis use is an area where like-minded thinking is a must. It would be hard to imagine being with someone who doesn’t share the love of herb.
Recently, my husband has been on a cannabis break, something we have only gone through once together and very early in our relationship and I could still leave whenever I wanted. Now, we’re married and there is no denying his lack of use, or my continued use, is bringing about some new challenges.
Cannabis has always been a part of my relationships. From dating to serious relationships, to marriage, all the men in my life have shared one thing: a deep appreciation for herb. The arguments and disapproving glances from someone who didn’t share my passion for cannabis were more than I would tolerate.
A study conducted by the University of Buffalo seems to support my theory that a common interest in cannabis can lead to a happier relationship. Scientists discovered that because people are happier when they’ve used cannabis, they’re less likely to argue and fight, or become victims or perpetrators of domestic violence.
“Marijuana may increase positive affect, which in turn could reduce the likelihood of conflict and aggression. Chronic users exhibit blunted emotional reaction to threat stimuli, which may also decrease the likelihood of aggressive behavior.”
Honestly, I think the biggest threat of domestic violence is to my poor husband because his mood swings and irritability during this tolerance break are enough to drive any woman to the brink.
In order to remain calm, cool and collected, I chose to sit out this break. One of us had to remain in the right state of mind, ensuring I could walk away from any irrational argument his irritation might cause. I was also worried if we both stopped, my moodiness would over-power everything and we’d just spontaneously combust inside our townhouse walls.
My husband is the most level-headed, relaxed, business man I’ve ever met. He rarely gets mad or raises his voice, and 9 times out of 10, if we’re in an argument it’s because I’m upset. I could never have anticipated the mood swings he’d go through during the first few days of this break. When someone you love stops partaking it’s important to remember they’re the ones with a temporary lack of control over emotions and reactions. Be the bigger person and walk away from any unnecessary arguments.
Unpleasantries all around
After a busy work day, dinner has always been our time to catch up, and I take time every day to prepare a healthy, balanced meal. However, another unfortunate side effect of a break is a loss of appetite and also, for my husband at least, irregular sleep patterns. Now, when you don’t eat and you don’t sleep, you become tense. Paired with irritation from not using cannabis, the symptoms just pile atop one another, making the sufferer a very unpleasant person to be around.
If you’re the partner who continues to use cannabis, while the other takes a break, it can be easy to develop feelings of anger or frustration. Try to see things from their point of view; think about how difficult it would be for you to stop indulging. Lord knows, I keep reminding myself every time my husband makes a smart-alecky comment about my office smelling like a Cheech and Chong factory.
Have you or your partner ever taken a break while the other didn’t? How did you get through it? Let us know on social media or in the comments below.